Putri Revida : Kepercayaan ibarat sebuah kertas….

Kepercayaan ibarat sebuah kertas….
Sekali kau meremasnya, tidak akan pernah bisa kembali sempurna….
Maka dari itu, ketika km di berikan sebuah kepercayaan oleh orang.
Jangan pernah menyia-nyiakan sebuah kepercayaan itu.
Sekali kau membuat kepercayaan itu pudar, ia tidak akan bisa kembali lagi ke seperti semula.
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Revida Putri : Solusi Ampuh Menyembuhkan Rasa Sakit Akibat Dikhianati

” Saya Diam bukan berarti Diam “

mending jujur walau menyakitkan daripada sembunyi sembunyi tapi ketahuan

” I can see you in the dark Place even the light on the whole world is off “

“Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you.” ― Sherrilyn Kenyon, Invincible

Dilansir dari womanitely.com, meskipun memaafkan orang yang baru mengkhianati kita itu bukan perkara mudah tapi kita harus bisa mencari cara untuk menghilangkan perasaan negatif. Apa tujuannya? Tujuannya adalah agar kita bisa lebih mengembangkan emosi dan menjadi orang yang dewasa serta bijak di kemudian hari. Untuk sembuh dari rasa sakit akibat dikhianati, Anda bisa menggunakan empat cara ini.

• Terima Emosi Anda

  Perasaan dikhianati bisa memunculkan berbagai macam emosi negatif. Ada rasa bingung, marah, sedih, dan muak. Semuanya berkumpul jadi satu. Tapi semakin Anda menolak semua emosi itu, bisa jadi emosi itu semakin mengkungkung Anda. Terima dan hadapi perasaan negatif tersebut. Dengan demikian, Anda bisa punya ruang untuk mencari akar masalah dan segera mencari solusinya. Setidaknya Anda sudah bisa lebih tahu dan sadar mana orang yang bisa Anda percaya dan mana yang tidak.

• Sampaikan Rasa Sakit Anda

  Jika Anda tak mau dianggap kalah, sampaikan rasa sakit dan kekecewaan Anda terhadap orang yang mengkhianati Anda. Anda hanya perlu memaparkan betapa sakitnya perasaan Anda ketika dikhianati. Namun jangan sampai Anda terbawa emosi dan malah membuat suasana semakin keruh. Anda cukup menjelaskan bahwa Anda sudah tak bisa lagi mempercayai orang yang mengkhianati Anda. Buat orang tersebut merasa bertanggung jawab atas tindakan yang ia lakukan kepada Anda.

• Lakukan Hal-Hal yang Anda Sukai

  Ubahlah rasa sakit dan emosi negatif Anda dengan emosi dan hal-hal positif. Alihkan perhatian Anda dari hal-hal negatif ke ha-hal yang lebih positif. Saatnya untuk membuka jalan baru yang lebih optimis ke depan. Saatnya untuk membuktikan bahwa Anda bukanlah orang yang lemah. Anda bisa tetap menjadi seseorang yang bahagia dan mendapatkan kehidupan yang Anda inginkan meskipun Anda baru saja dilukai oleh orang terdekat Anda.

• Belajar untuk Memaafkan

  “It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend (William Blake)”. Yang membuat sebuah pengkhianatan terasa begitu menyakitkan adalah karena kita biasanya harus berhadapan dan berhubungan langsung dengan orang yang sangat dekat dengan kita. Dilukai oleh orang terdekat rasanya jauh lebih menyakitkan daripada dilukai oleh musuh. Tetapi Anda perlu belajar untuk memaafkan. Toh, tak ada gunanya juga memendam emosi negatif dalam diri Anda sendiri. Justru dengan memaafkan, Anda akan menjadi seseorang yang lebih kuat lagi.

Untuk sembuh dari rasa sakit dan terluka akibat dikhianati, Anda perlu memiliki tekad yang kuat untuk kembali melanjutkan hidup. Masa lalu pun tak akan bisa diulang atau diperbaiki, kecuali jika Anda terus optimis untuk melangkah ke depan untuk kehidupan Anda yang lebih baik.

Lick it! This new WTF app lets men practise oral sex by licking their phone screen. Seriously.

Straight out of the crazy files comes Lick It, a new app designed to help your guy become a pro at, er, going down on you. For realz.

The app offers various movements that promise to strengthen his tongue – get this – bylicking his phone screen.

Solusisex : The Vitamin You Need So Your Penis Can Perform

Lacking enough of the sunshine vitamin might snuff out the lights on your bedroom game.  New research from Italy suggests that low levels of vitamin D may increase your risk of erectile dysfunction.

Solusisex : Reasons Why Having The Same Partner Forever Does Wonders For Your Sex Life

© Thinkstock In a recent interview with InStyle magazine, Cameron Diaz voiced her thoughts on monogamy. "I don’t know if anyone is really naturally monogamous. We all have the same instincts as animals. But we live in a society where it’s been ingrained in us to do these things,” she says. Her words merely echo a society that doesn't always fully embrace the idea of committed relationshipsand monogamy. Social media alone makes it 100x harder to avoid temptation and accusations of infidelity. Let's not even discuss 'the bit on the side' who use these platforms to glorify their homewrecking status and those cheating guys that get exposed as a result. Ugh, the worst! With everything considered, it's no wonder monogamy isn't exactly seen as the 'coolest' thing in our culture. However, we want you to know that being with one person for the rest of your life actually has its fair share of perks. Don't believe us? Oh, you will... © Pinterest via Flickr 1. The risk of STIs is decreased According to the CDC, "A reliable way to avoid transmission of STIs is to abstain from oral, vaginal, andanal sex or to be in a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship with an uninfected partner." The key words to keep in mind: "mutually monogamous". Even after you two have sworn to nix other partners, make sure you BOTH get tested on a regular basis. It can never hurt to receive a clean bill of health. 2. Condoms aren't as important Yes, sex does feel better without them! We admit it. But before you get too carried away, don't forget everything we said above. It's also important to take other measures to prevent unwanted pregnancies. While we're all for pleasure, we like it to be done responsibly. 3. You'll never have to do the walk of shame again © Tumblr via Hungover Afternoons We're cringing remembering mornings we'd creep into the house making sure no one saw us in yesterday's clothes. Yes, we've been bad, very bad... But it doesn't mean we want everyone to know it! 4. You can get as nasty as you very well please... every single time Even the good girls like to get down and dirty from time to time. Now imagine being granted the liberty to get as filthy as your little heart desires every time you hit the sack. The freedom to let it all hang out is unmatched when in a committed relationship. Trust us. So by all means, let that inner sex pot run wild! 5. You'll master each other's body This is one of the best things. There will be no more guessing what gets him off and vice versa. When you've been together for years, you'll come to know the exact coordinates of his most sensitive erogenous zones. No map or GPS necessary. Now go on, explore and conquer. 6. You can show him your 'O' face Yes you have one. EVERYONE has one. That's when you know the orgasm was earth-shattering good. The type that made you curl up and cry because you couldn't believe how good it was. You know, the kind that was so intense you booked a session with your therapist right after. With a lifelong partner, you won't have to be afraid to let out your inner gremlin when reaching the big O. Why? Because he's obligated to love you unconditionally anyway. Yup, gremlin hybrid and all. 7. You can experiment with no judgment Now's the time to try all those weird and dirty fetishes you've been dreaming of. You'll be together forever, so why not? Bedroom behaviour will never grow stale once you both toss inhibition to the wind and live out your wildest fantasies. You'll be on that roller coaster together, so you're pretty much exempt from judgement. 8. You don't have to worry about awkward one night stands One of the best perks of being in a committed relationship is never having to worry about those awkward one night stands ever again. The thought of waking up in the morning and having him see the REAL you, then running for the hills? We get chills at the thought. After being with your lover for years, they'll literally see and smell (hello, morning breath!) you at your worst. A one night stand just wouldn't understand, nor would you want him to. 9. Say bye bye to dry spells There will be no more nights at home alone cuddling next to a glass of wine and your fave sex toy. You'll have a living, breathing, caressing person to take care of all your needs. It's truly one of the greatest joys of being in a relationship. You can finally kiss those booty calls goodbye. 10. The emotional aspect makes sex hotter We women are emotional beings, so it's pretty much obvious we'd enjoy sex a lot more with someone we deeply care about. It truly takes it to another level when we know our man shares the love. Being able to have that for the rest of our lives? Bliss.

A study has found that getting busy in the sack is just as good as your daily fitness sesh!

Here’s a difficult question for you: would you rather chuck on your joggers and head out to exercise, or stay in bed with your BF and have passionate sex? It’s a no brainer, right? And you’re probably wondering why we’d even ask such an obvious question, but we promise there’s a method to our madness.

oral sex tips you need to know

FOR HIM: Oral sex is often considered as part of the ‘lead-up’ to the main round, but encourage him to think of it as an act that deserves its own foreplay. Kissing, touching and arousing each other before he ducks beneath the sheets will give you time to warm up to his level.

FOR YOU: Be vocal about what you want, and encourage him to do the same. Before you go down on him, tell him you want his feedback throughout – what feels good, what doesn’t, when to speed up or apply more pressure. It’ll encourage an open dialogue between you both when it’s his turn.

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FOR HIM: Give him better access to your G-spot by propping a pillow under your bum (when you’re lying on your back).

FOR YOU: Receiving oral sex should be a relaxing and enjoyable experience for you, but that doesn’t mean you should make him do all the work. Gently roll your hips to grind against his mouth or hold the back of his head when you want him to apply pressure (without smothering him, obvs).

FOR HIM: Remind your guy of what’s waiting for him when he finishes down there – caress your body so that he can see you enjoying yourself when he looks up, or grab one of his hands and have him play with your breasts.

FOR YOU: Fake the sensation of deep-throating him by putting his penis underneath your tongue, rather than on top of it. No gagging, guaranteed.

FOR HIM: Ask him to mix things up down there by alternating pressure and suction. The experience of oral sex is different for men and women, so he’ll need some guidance about when to take it slow and when to work overtime. Talking about what you enjoy and don’t enjoy before or after sex will give you a better understanding of your partner’s needs.

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FOR YOU: The hole in the tip of his penis (it’s called the meatus) has amazing, and untapped, potential during oral sex. Apply gentle pressure to it while working the shaft, and build up to a medium pressure. He’ll love the unexpected sensation.

FOR HIM: Increase your pleasure by getting him to slip a finger inside you while he’s down there, or embrace your kinkier side by getting him to use a vibrator on you while he stimulates your clitoris with his tongue.

FOR YOU: You might feel like it’s an unflattering angle, but trust us – he wants your lady parts all up in his face. Straddle his head and lean forward against the wall while he pleasures you lying on his back. It’s a perfect position if you want to have more control during the act.

How does sleep affect your sex life?

Sleep and sex

We’ve all used the “too tired” excuse in the bedroom at least once. In fact, 33 percent of women and one in four live-in couples in the U.S. frequently report being too tired for sex. There is good news, though

Revida Putri : Sexual health resolutions: Start a bedroom bucket list!

It’s that time of the year to reflect on what’s lacking in our lives and how to improve it. We should not limit our resolutions to simply losing weight or reducing stress. Resolutions are a way to focus on improving life, feeling better and putting more focus on self-care. What about sexual health?

Revida Putri : Study says sex and booze make people happier than kids

Sex and booze, please

The study by postgraduate psychology researcher Carsten Grimm from the University of Canterbury in New Zealand found people rate sex as the top activity that brings them happiness, followed by drinking alcohol or "partying.” Childcare ranked fifth on the list — sorry kids!

How it went down

Researchers at the University of Canterbury in New Zealand conducted the study using an interesting method to collect data on what people did during an average day and how they felt about each activity: via text messaging. Grimm had the survey participants rank 30 activities (from child rearing to video games) on three criteria: whether it brought them pleasure, how engaged they were when doing the activity and if it brought them overall happiness. Shockingly, having sex took first place in all categories. Go figure!

What does it all mean?

It’s not shocking that sex made the number one spot on a study about what makes people happy. It is, after all a pleasurable experience. Booze we can also understand. While you definitely don’t need it to have a good time, and too much is never a good thing, people enjoy their cocktails (and beer and wine). Booze is a social lubricant and (in moderation) makes people feel less stressed out and more likely to focus on having a good time (not the presentation they have to do next week).

What else made the list?

When it comes to happiness, there were a few other things that contributed to a positive outlook aside from a roll in the hay and an expertly mixed cocktail. We know childcare and playing with children ranked fifth out of 10, but what else made the list? Volunteering and caregiving came third, meditating and religious activities came fourth, listening to music or podcasts came sixth and socializing came in at number seven.

Revida Putri : Orgasm basics

There are many physical and mental health benefits of orgasm that make it one of the best kept secrets around, and there are multiple orgasm (no pun intended) types that are not as well known.

Solusisex : Treat yourself: High-end vibrators

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crazy-hot sex facts

1. Your breasts can swell up to 25 per cent when you’re aroused, making them super-sensitive.

2. It’s possible for a guy to orgasm and not ejaculate. So if you don’t see any, uh, evidence, that doesn’t mean he’s faking it.

3. The average speed of a guy’s ejaculation is 45km/h. Wow.

4. Nerve endings in the clitoris extend out to the mons pubis (where your pubic hair grows), which is why grinding against your guy feels so good.

5. Not only does it feel amazing – your orgasm also has other things going for it. It releases endorphins, which are natural painkillers, and oxytocin, which makes you feel more connected with your man. 

6. The largest penis in the world currently measures 23cm flaccid and 34cm erect. The owner, who lives in New York, claims he was stopped by airport security on one occasion because the officials were suspicious of his bulge. 

7. Nipple stimulation activates the same part of the brain as clitoral, vaginal and cervical stimulation – so engaging all of them at once makes for a whole lot of fun.

8. According to a recent poll, swimmers and footballers are the athletes most likely to get women all hot and bothered. 

The three foods women would choose over sex:

9. Sushi

10. Chocolate

11. Steak

12. Amp up his pleasure  by stroking his inner thighs during oral. Because this area is close to his genitals, the extra flow of blood will heighten his sensations.

13. Apparently, Australian women fake more than just their hair colour: 62 per cent have faked an orgasm^!

14. Thrusting flexes your pelvic-floor muscles, which triggers orgasmic spasms.

15. The typical female orgasm lasts 25 seconds.

16. The top of the breast is most sensitive, the bottom of the breast is least sensitive.

17. The clitoris has about 8000 nerve endings…

18. … and it doesn’t stop growing. By age 32, your clitoris is four times larger than it was at puberty.

19. Research shows that men who have sex within a relationship report greater pleasure than guys who have no-strings-attached sex.

20. Just 43 per cent of Australians want sex three to six times a week.

21. Sex three to five times a week can prevent erectile dysfunction, as it keeps his package in shape.

22. The National Bureau of Economic Research in the US found that having sex often can make you feel as happy as earning an extra $100,000 a year does.

23. Apply a minty lip balm before kissing – it will send tingles to his package. 

24. Women can have wet dreams too. It happens in the REM cycle (about 90 minutes into your sleep), when blood flow to the vagina increases. 

25. You are more likely to orgasm if your feet are warm.

26. A quick way to get in the mood: hug your guy for 30 seconds. Cuddling boosts oxytocin (aka the bonding hormone) and libido.

27. His relationship happiness is related to how often he is touched by his girl. So grab away.

28. A woman’s odds of climaxing increase as she ages.

29. Fourteen per cent of women have experienced a “zone orgasm”, which happens when a part of the body other than the boobs or vagina is stimulated.

30. A guy whose GF hangs out with his mates too much is 92 per cent more likely to have difficulty getting erect, because he feels emasculated.

31. Eating celery while with your man? You may want to jump him – the veg releases odours that make you horny.

32. Sex during your period can ease menstrual cramps.

33. If he’s close to climaxing, buy some time by squeezing the head of his penis. 

34. Scientists found that fruit flies deprived of sex drink more booze than those allowed to mate.

35. Studies show that sex can boost your immune system.

36. Touching the sides of his torso triggers a nerve that makes his erection harder. 

37. Semen can keep your smile looking gorgeous. It contains zinc and calcium that fight tooth decay. 

38. Sprinkling salt on your tongue before oral may help lessen your gag reflex.

39. Most twentysomethings have sex 112 times a year. 

40. Making out burns about 20 kilojoules a minute.

41. When you kiss someone, you exchange hormonal and health info. It’s nature’s way of allowing you to assess if you click sexually.

42. Compliments in bed make you more likely to O. 

43. Fifty per cent of women say bad sex is a relationship deal breaker, but only 44 per cent of guys agree.

44. Women with a more prominent upper-lip tubercle (the puffy spot) have greater odds of having an orgasm.
 
45. When a guy touches you, your body temp rises three times more than when a woman touches you.

46. Core-gasms do exist. In a recent study, 51 per cent of women reported having an O during an ab exercise…

47. … and it’s not just for crunches: 20 per cent said they’ve experienced orgasm while practising yoga. 

48. Your temperature rises the most when he touches your chest or face (as opposed to your arms or hands). 

49. Men can have multiple orgasms, too. Simply pleasure his goods after he’s climaxed.

50. Sex can actually blow your mind: transient amnesia (temporary memory loss) can be triggered by wild sex.

51. Men think about sex around 19 times a day.

52. Women? Ten times.

53. People in Australia have sex in the park more often than people in other countries.

54. Research shows that his fantasies will focus more on your pleasure than your fantasies focus on his.

55. Foreplay stimulates an area of the brain called the hippocampus, which is also responsible for memory.

56. The more masculine-looking a guy is, the more times you’ll orgasm.

57. The most orgasmic sex for women: solo. Second place: oral. Third place: P-in-V. 

58. Don’t hold your breath during sex: the more oxygen that gets to your genitals, the more aroused you’ll be.

59. Morning wood isn’t because he wants sex. Blood flows to his penis when he’s asleep, causing an erection. 

60. In Australia, 22 per cent of women have had sex with someone out of sympathy.

61. Before sex, the lower part of your vagina narrows for a better grip on his penis.

62. You’re most likely to get distracted during sex at the two- to three-minute mark.

63. Semen isn’t low carb – it’s mostly made of sugar.

64. If he finds it hard to stay hard, avoid girl-on-top as his penis will be fighting gravity. 

65. Women fantasise about romantic settings (such as islands), whereas men focus more on body parts.
 
66. Forty-six per cent of Americans think they are more likely to see Bigfoot than to climax at the exact same time as their partner.

67. When a guy is turned on his sweat becomes saturated with chemicals that are linked to female arousal.

68. Your climax will be more intense if you raise your hips slightly and squeeze your PC muscles before peaking.

69. Don’t feel bad about that drunken night you slept with that guy you don’t remember – 73 per cent of women admit having at least one one-night stand.